Who are we?

There are four key aspects to each individual – physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. For us all to be truly happy and content these areas need to be in balance.

The Physical body we are all familiar with and most people have a reasonable understanding of what the body needs to survive and to be healthy:- water, exercise, and a balanced diet of foodstuffs.

The Mind (or brain) for most if us is still a bit of a mystery. It functions, it responds when we ask something of it, but it also seems to have (sorry for the pun) a mind of its own. We seem to have thoughts jumping into our heads – often when we least want them! So what is going on here? Well the mind is simply a computer that responds to commands that we have programmed into it. Unfortunately these commands are mostly being given unconsciously and have come from our created belief system – if we liken it to a computer, a bit like a software programme allowing us to create something. In the case of our mind the belief system is like the software programme and our response to situations, people and things are out reactions.
Our belief systems are typically a combination of our parent’s beliefs systems, influential people in our life such as teachers and our personal experiences. Our belief systems can and do change. For example we may have a fear of flying in a helicopter, or going on a balloon flight or visiting a certain place or country. Only to find that if and when we do decide to have this experience it is very enjoyable. So hence our belief about that experience changes.

The Emotions are reactions to an experience of something e.g. something said, visiting a place seeing something on the TV or reading something in the paper.

There is no single definition of the term emotion. However, experts indicate that the following elements are essential:

  • An emotion is a mental state that is usually accompanied by physical changes, facial expressions, or actions.
  • An emotion occurs if a personal interest is interfered with or encouraged.
  • An emotion is accompanied by a tendency to undertake action.

The psychologist Alice Isen and her colleagues have shown that being happy broadens the thought processes and facilitates creative thinking. Isen discovered that when people were asked to solve difficult problems, ones that required unusual “out of the box” thinking, they did much better when they had just been given a small gift – not much of a gift, but enough to make them feel good. When you feel good, Isen discovered, you are better at brainstorming, at examining multiple alternatives. And it doesn’t take much to make people feel good: all Isen had to do was ask people to watch a few minutes of a comedy film or receive a small bag of sweets.

We have long known that when people are anxious they tend to narrow their thought processes, concentrating upon aspects directly relevant to a problem. This is a useful strategy in escaping from danger, but not in thinking of imaginative new approaches to a problem. Isen’s results show that when people are relaxed and happy, their thought processes expand, becoming more creative, more imaginative. (Taken from Attractive things work better by Donald A Norman: www.jnd.org/dn.mss/CH01.pdf)

Studies indicate that there are four basic emotions: anger, happiness, fear, and sadness.

I feel there are two: Love and Fear

Emotions are reactions from our set of belief systems (or views) held within our mind.

The Soul or Spirit is an aspect of ourselves that everyone to some degree is aware of. It is an unseen energy that is who we truly are. It transcends time and space and exists as one with all of humanity, with all of everything. The soul is a form of energy that represents who we were, who we are and who we will be, all at the same time. It has the ability to link to all others, past, present and future.

This interactive website is aimed at helping each person to explore new ways of being. By providing information, through publications, e-courses and books, workshops and seminars, all aimed at helping each person get in touch with these four aspects of themselves.